How I am focussing on changing my mindset; to regaining me …
For so long I have struggled with not really knowing who I am anymore – the very title of this blog gives that away and the fact I have designated a whole section to my journey into self-care! I have taken a lot of time to reflect on why I have been unable to lift the cloud I feel like I have been under for a while now. Having come to a crossroads I was forced to take time to think – time in silence to try to work through my mind and I am actually really proud that I sought the help I so desperately needed. As I start my journey out of the gloom there have already been quite a few lightbulb moments so I wanted to capture and share them here.
1) Focus on the Positive
I almost entitled this post “the problems with me” and that perfectly encapsulates the mindset change I need! Rather than focus on the negative I am committing to turn everything on its head and focus on the positive. Perfect example – to view this post positively I have recognised my tendency to negativity and am consciously working to reverse this.
2) Focus on What I Do Have & Know
A focus on lack creates a feeling of lack
… I am committing to turn this into happiness and abundance by starting a focus on gratitude.
3) Get Out of Analysis Paralysis
Having an obsessive personality I don’t take action unless I am 1000% sure it is right. I often get caught in the vortex of learning and planning and not actually DOING. So with this blog I am committed to starting and seeing where the journey leads, learning as I go.
4) Remove Fear of Failure and Replace with Anticipation and Excitement for Success
On reflection what have the years spent worrying and planning actually brought me other than a very unhealthy obsession with stationery and spreadsheets?!
Is worry ever productive? I need to consciously recognise when worry or fear are my limiting factors and go for it regardless … at least I will have tried and I would definitely rather look back on my life & know
It’s better to regret something you have done
and learn from it than to always wonder what if …
5) Stop Worrying about What Others Think
I now trust that focussing on doing what makes me happy will bring me everything I need, a sense of peace and fulfilment.
6) Self-Care is not Selfish it’s Necessary – Do it!
This seems to be a topic on everyone’s radar at the moment – maybe it’s the nights drawing in?! I just know it is so important. The problem is we often feel guilty from taking time to ourselves but you really can’t pour from an empty cup – you have to have the energy to give it. Make sure you take the time to refresh your mind as well as your body.
So there you have my plans … now I just have to remember to DO them!
Any tips or ways to fit self care and mindfulness into my day? Gratefully received!